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mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.comBob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-17706827964669103142014-10-29T09:30:00.001-07:002014-10-29T09:41:10.549-07:00The Calm of Discombobulation - A Lesson for Teachers <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span>uddenly on the horizon of their emotions, a storm cloud appears. Pat Hetic* saunters into the classroom just as the bell rings. His slumped shoulders, gruff demeanor and tear stained face give rise to an emotional volcano about to erupt. "I hate this school!" He screams and slams his books down on his desk. Your perfectly planned lesson wasn't designed to withstand the lava flow of Pat Hetic's emotional eruption. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <b><i><span style="font-size: large;">C</span></i></b>ondes Cending* gives her loud opinion regarding Pat's immaturity. "That creep will never grow up." She spews her words in a venomous verbal judgement. Pat's friends glare at her and raise their voices in reply, their words are tipped with barbs of negativity. "Leave him alone, he's having a bad day! Besides you're no better than he is!" Soon, the serenity you had envisioned for your lesson has percolated into a waterfall cascading into confusion. Your painstakingly crafted lesson left no room for volcanic eruptions.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> <b><i><span style="font-size: large;">D</span></i></b>iscombobulated might be a good description of your own emotional state as you grapple with the storm that's escalating with each verbal jab. The most basic definitions for discombobulate include words like: "to throw into confusion," "to frustrate," It's a scenario that is played out almost everyday in classrooms across the world. As a Teacher you understand the ebb and flow of emotional management in the classroom. If you haven't figured out how to teach amidst the storms of adolescent volatility, here are a few secrets for you:</span><br />
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<i><b><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></b></i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><b><span style="font-size: large;">I</span></b></i>t's a simple formula of "D=O" or "Discombobulation = Opportunity." There must be conflict for there to be growth. The Heart Farmer has to have broken ground before he can plant seeds of love for young hearts to grow. The muscle must tear before it becomes stronger. The butterfly must struggle to be able to fly. The diamond is made from stress and pressure. The pearl is made from an irritant. </span><br />
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"You're not my father!" It's a phrase that I've heard screamed in defiance countless times. Young men filled with resentment rebel against any fatherly figure who fills a role of authority. Anger at the absence of a father figure is embedded in the hearts of fatherless sons. Their subconscious is filled with volcanic like indignation that fuels quick-tempered outrage. Identifying the root of anger will help you teach your Mentee how to use anger as a building foundation instead of a self destructive force.</div>
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We had to close the door to keep the young boy from running out of the Principal's office. He was out of control; punching, kicking, screaming and crying. I was in the building for a Relationship Mentoring Class and just happened to be in the Main Office when the boy was brought in. </div>
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Talking to him seemed to have no effect at calming him down. Then we asked him if he wanted to draw and gave him some paper and markers. We were just biding our time until a parent or guardian could come and take him home. He began to draw pictures of people and a house. As he drew the pictures, he began to relax. We asked him about his artwork and he opened up a little. He said that sometimes he went to his Dad's house. He said sometimes they would argue and then he had to go home. The boy was angry about a family situation.</div>
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All situations require individual and unique responses. There is no "one size fits all" answer. Do not rely solely on your own experience to solve a problem dealing with anger. The anger issue that you may have lived through may be similar but each person is unique. Be a patient and empathetic listener. Ask questions about what, where, why, when and how regarding the anger. If someone does not want to talk: DO NOT FORCE THEM! Be a friend and build trust by being caring and non-judgmental.</div>
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This next section may scare some of you. Depending on where and who you Mentor, dangerous situations can arise. Some teenagers will try and bait you into a physical altercation. You may be much stronger than a young boy - YOU DON'T HAVE TO PROVE IT. Only use physical force as a last resort. If an attack occurs, defend yourself as best as you can.</div>
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I have Mentored in the inner city for over 10 years. I have had attempts on my life and damage to my personal property at my home. I have called the Police on numerous occasions. I have had to break up fights between both girls and guys. Drugs and alcohol play a huge part in violent behaviors. There are ways to protect yourself as you Mentor in potentially dangerous situations. Some are no-brainers but you need to burn them into your brain.</div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman';"> Mentoring can be dangerous in certain neighborhoods and with certain individuals. You most likely will never have to face the dangers listed above but the Boy Scout Motto is: "Be Prepared!" There are storms in life and preparation will keep you safe.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>"Rain, rain go away,<br />Mentor come again<br />some other day."</b></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>A</i></b></span> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Mentor will have emotionally rainy days when you'll need an umbrella of stability. The storms that a Mentor will face are generally incubated in the "atmos-fear" of the heart. Clouds will roll into the heart of a child in the form of negative life events resulting in "heart-humidity" or a heavy heart. If the heart continues to accumulate greater degrees of humidity, the "atmos-fear" begins to develop a rain storm of anger and frustration. Mood changes can happen quickly and cause chaos.</span><br />
<b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;">L</span></i></b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ife-rain is composed of many droplets of activity than can destroy or nurture. Destruction can be turned into a new opportunity for growth in a greater way. How does a quick rain storm suddenly appear?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Michael Wilkinson, Bernhard Mehlig and Vlad Bezuglyy explain
how quick showers can result from a dramatic increase in the collision rate of
microscopic water droplets when the turbulence intensity in the atmosphere
exceeds a threshold. Their theory, published in a recent issue of Physical
Review Letters, suggests that the collision rate suddenly increases when the
velocity of the water droplets as a function of position forms “caustics,”
becoming a multi-valued function. When particles at the same position are
moving with different velocities, the probability for collision is greatly
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Read more at: <a href="http://phys.org/news74873917.html#jCp"><span style="color: windowtext;">http://phys.org/news74873917.html#jCp</span></a>¹</span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Let me attempt to rephrase that statement regarding a quick rain storm into a description of what people go through:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"When the turbulence intensity in the atmos-fear of a human heart</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> exceeds the threshold of emotional tolerance, </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">the velocity of volatility is increased until</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> outbursts of fear, anger or sadness</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> boil over into a storm of hopelessness." </span> </blockquote>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Someone who acts agitated, depressed, moody or unable to concentrate.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Negative speech patterns expressing the desire to hurt oneself or commit suicide. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Acting withdrawn or hopeless.</span></li>
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<b><i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I</span></i></b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">f you have a good relationship with someone and you know them well, you'll be able to pick up on potential emotional problems quite easily. If your relationship is just beginning it will be a bit harder. Being able to read emotional weather patterns takes time and study. Emotional problems that are not dealt with have the potential to develop into a storm. This chapter is designed to make you aware of the need to understand emotional weather patterns and their potentially volatile tendencies. In the next chapter we'll give you some tips on dealing with some emotional issues that may help you calm the brewing storm.</span></div>
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-39009651038950703872014-08-11T07:43:00.001-07:002014-08-11T07:43:27.934-07:00THE SCARED MENTOR<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><i> <b>F</b></i></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ear is universal, sparing no human being who has a heart beat. Fear can be healthy or destructive. Mentors who develop a healthy balance between compassion and healthy fear will create a nurturing emotional environment for Mentorees.</span> <div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>E</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">xamine the following list of actions. Most would cause fear in some of us. Fear may be universal and yet fear isn't equal in the sense of what causes fear.</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">C</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">limbing on a cliff without a rope. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Standing on the railroad tracks facing an oncoming train.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Walking on a dark street in a city known for violence. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Someone you love abandons or rejects you.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You have to mentor a child labelled with Antisocial Personality Disorder.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Death, Divorce, Disease, Bankruptcy.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Speaking in public.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Getting a speeding ticket.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Being accepted.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Beginning a new relationship.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The child you are mentoring dies violently.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your reputation might be tarnished due to a failed mentoring relationship.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ome folks are perfectly comfortable on a cliff without a rope, walking city streets or speaking in public. It doesn't matter how you feel fear, it matters how you prepare and deal with fear when it happens. Fear can be passive, active or constantly shifting between the two. I won't bother to describe active fear because you'll know when you're scared by the perceived dangers on the battlefields in your mind. Here is the definition of the word passive as taken from Dictionary.com</span><b>¹<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">:</span></b></div>
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Passive<br />
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1.not reacting visibly to something that might be expected to produce
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not participating readily or actively; inactive:<br />
a passive member of a committee.<br />
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not involving visible reaction or active participation:<br />
to play a passive role.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hinking about your fear of heights is passive. If you're planning on a mountain trek where you'll be exposed to new heights, your fear will begin to advance towards the stage of fear activation. A "Scared Mentor" can cause emotional damage to themselves and others when their fear becomes active. There are steps that you can take to deal with your fears.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is an ancient Greek word; "gnosis" which means knowledge. A deeper meaning for the word is "intimate knowledge" or "knowledge from experience." Do you have an intimate knowledge of yourself? Do you know the root causes of your behaviors? Do you carry unresolved generational wounds from your family? You have to know your limitations. In the Movie; "Dirty Harry," Clint Eastwood plays a cop who is considered controversial, reckless and dangerous. Here are some quotes by Harry Calahan taken from Wickiquote,</span>²<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> my words are in parenthesis:</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"A man's got to know his limitations."</span> <i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>(Set boundaries.)</b></span></i></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Nothing wrong with shooting as long as the right people get
shot."</span> <i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>(Don't shoot other people when you are trying to conquer your own fears.)</b></span></i></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"This is a 44. Magnum, the most powerful handgun in the
world. It can blow your head clean off. You've got to ask yourself one question,
Do I feel lucky?" </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>(Fear can be the most powerful weapon in the world.)</b></span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>Y</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ou really need to know your roots and the fruit that'll grow from your emotional tree. Will there be fear in your foliage? Know your limitations and set boundaries. If you're not comfortable on city streets then don't go there without someone who has a "city street gnosis." There are fears that you can overcome, please don't conquer them at the expense of others. If you end up angry at a young person on the city streets, that anger has the potential to start a riot.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>W</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hat do you do when you are faced with the fear of working with a child who has been described as being anti-social? <u style="font-weight: bold;">Treat them like any other child!</u> All children are gifted and talented and deserve equal amounts of love. Many times we put labels on children who are reflecting the character that has been forced upon them at home. Injustice is not discriminatory in choosing which child to visit. Lack of compassion may be a generational scourge that becomes a burden laced with fear for a child. Be patient and don't give up. Seek out their particular uniqueness and help them flourish. Mentoring is a long term commitment. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i> S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">tudy to show yourself approved as a Mentor. You'll avoid fears that you can't overcome. You'll help others become overcomers by the fears you do overcome. </span><br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
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¹<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/passive</span></div>
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²<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Magnum_Force</span></div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-9160103729999118402014-08-08T08:14:00.000-07:002014-08-08T08:14:20.061-07:00The Drowning Mentor<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>D</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">rowning is the cause of death for thousands of people every year. According to the Center for Disease Control, drowning is the fifth leading cause of death unintentional injury deaths in the United States.</span><b>¹ </b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Several years ago I watched a man save a 2 yr old girl who was drowning in a small pool at a hotel. In the midst of a large group of people, no one noticed her struggling until it was almost too late. A Man grabbed her and immediately initiated CPR, the little girl survived. Unfortunately many thousands of people drown every year.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">here is a wealth of preventative information posted on the CDC Website. They mention several key focus areas that can help prevent drowning. Here is some helpful information to help keep you and your family safe around water:</span><br />
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<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Supervise When in or Around Water.</strong> Designate a responsible adult to watch young children while in the bath and all children swimming or playing in or around water. Supervisors of preschool children should provide “touch supervision”, be close enough to reach the child at all times. Because drowning occurs quickly and quietly, adults should not be involved in any other distracting activity (such as reading, playing cards, talking on the phone, or mowing the lawn) while supervising children, even if lifeguards are present.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Use the Buddy System.</strong> Always swim with a buddy. Select swimming sites that have lifeguards when possible.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Seizure Disorder Safety.</strong> If you or a family member has a seizure disorder, provide one-on-one supervision around water, including swimming pools. Consider taking showers rather than using a bath tub for bathing. Wear life jackets when boating.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Learn to Swim.</strong> Formal swimming lessons can protect young children from drowning. However, even when children have had formal swimming lessons, constant, careful supervision when children are in the water, and barriers, such as pool fencing to prevent unsupervised access, are still important.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Learn Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation (CPR).</strong> In the time it takes for paramedics to arrive, your CPR skills could save someone’s life.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Air-Filled or Foam Toys are not safety devices. </strong>Don’t use air-filled or foam toys, such as "water wings", "noodles", or inner-tubes, instead of life jackets. These toys are not life jackets and are not designed to keep swimmers safe.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Avoid Alcohol.</strong> Avoid drinking alcohol before or during swimming, boating, or water skiing. Do not drink alcohol while supervising children.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don’t let swimmers hyperventilate before swimming underwater</strong> <strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">or try to hold their breath for long periods of time.</strong> This can cause them to pass out (sometimes called “shallow water blackout”) and drown.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Know how to prevent recreational water illnesses.</strong> For more information about illnesses from recreational water, see the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/homeandrecreationalsafety/water-safety/waterinjuries-factsheet.html#more" style="color: #4a006e; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;">More Information </a>section below.</li>
<li style="margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Know the local weather conditions and forecast before swimming or boating.</strong> Strong winds and thunderstorms with lightning strikes are dangerous.<b>²</b></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>H</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ave you ever felt overwhelmed as a Mentor? Have you ever felt like you were drowning in an ocean of deep responsibility? Let's copy some of the safety tips for preventing drowning and paste them into a plan to help prevent Mentor Drowning.</span></div>
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<li><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Use the Mentoring Buddy System. </b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You should always have an accountability partner who is honest enough to speak truth that might be uncomfortable. If you have too many things going on in your life that are causing you to burn out (or drown,) it may be time to step back and let somebody else take your place. A Mentor needs to learn how to relieve stress. An accountability partner will help let you know that you are under stress. Most of us do not recognize burnout until we are already smoldering in exhaustion.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Report to a Supervisor. </b>Regular reporting to a Supervisor will help identify any potentially troubling areas for you and your Mentoree. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Be Prepared.</b> Part of forming a healthy relationship is identifying any possible weaknesses that can cause collapse. If you have just mentored a person who has consumed you emotional energy and left you depleted, do not step right into another heavy relationship. You need to be prepared for each episode in your life. If one episode consumes too much energy, you need to take a break and get rejuvenated.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Be Alert for Potential Dangers.</b> Alcohol and drug use, illegal and prescription have the potential to alter your ability to think clearly. If you feel lousy and you pop a pill to get through your mentoring session, will the pill cause you to be less coherent?</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Know the Mentoring Weather Conditions. </b>Emotions are like shifting sands and breaking waves. Moods can be volatile, erupting at the lightest agitation. Give yourself a moment to collect your thoughts and examine your emotional state before you meet with another person. Do you have a handle on your emotions or is there a potential storm brewing?</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">ake some time to keep your family safe around water, drowning can happen to anybody. Take some time to ensure that your emotional health is ready to be a Mentor. Thousands of children die or go to prison every year. Building a solid Mentor Force is a powerful measure of protection.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Bob Kuebler<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Founder / <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city> Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Our goal is to ensure that
every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city></st1:place>.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"><a href="http://www.youthwithapurpose.org/">www.youthwithapurpose.org</a><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<li style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; margin: 0.7em 0px 0.7em 1.5em; padding: 0px;">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. Web-based Injury Statistics Query and Reporting System (WISQARS) [online]. [cited 2012 May 3]. Available from: URL: <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/injury/wisqars" style="color: #4a006e; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">http://www.cdc.gov/injury/wisqars</a>.</li>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-60440452634478469792014-08-05T10:02:00.000-07:002014-08-05T10:02:29.804-07:00MENTORS, HOODIES & PIT BULLS<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">P</span></i></b>it bulls can be very dangerous dogs. A poodle can be a very dangerous dog. Danger comes in various sizes and breeds. Dogs do not breed themselves to be dangerous. There are certain character traits in animals that would give them a greater propensity to become vicious. Humans breed a greater viciousness in animals. The ownership of pit bulls has been legislated as illegal in many areas. Here's an example from Florida:<br />
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It is illegal in Miami-Dade County to own or keep American Pit Bull Terriers, American Staffordshire Terriers, Staffordshire Bull Terriers, or any other dog that substantially conforms to any of these breeds' characteristics. For more information, view the Miami-Dade County ordinance, <a href="http://www.municode.com/resources/gateway.asp?pid=10620&sid=9">Chapter 5, Sec. 5-17</a>. <a href="http://www.miamidade.gov/animals/pitbull-law.asp">http://www.miamidade.gov/animals/pitbull-law.asp</a></blockquote>
Breed-Specific Legislation was enacted in many places all over the world targeting "bully-type dogs." By targeting the ownership of certain breeds, folks thought they could help reduce the violence caused by those breeds. The term pit bull is applied to many inter bred bully-type dogs. Is it fair to generalize and use the term "dangerous" on all breeds of pit bulls based on statistically documented violence? That's a question designed to make you think about yourself and your relationship with the person you are mentoring.<br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><i>L</i></span></b>aws that target certain animals based on Breed-Specific Legislation are on the decline. People are beginning to examine the root causes of behaviors. Society has too often enacted legislation based on "knee-jerk reactions" to life altering events. Working together in collaboration is always the best practice to remove the cause with harmful effects.<br />
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"Building safer and more humane communities requires multifactorial approaches focusing on improved ownership and husbandry practices, better understanding of dog behavior, education of parents and children regarding safety around dogs, and consistent enforcement of dangerous dog/reckless owner ordinances in communities. National Canine Research Council. (2013). Causes and Prevention. <span style="font-size: x-small;">Retrieved from: http://nationalcanineresearchcouncil.com/dogbites/causes-and-prevention/2 Patronek, G.J., Sacks, J.J., Delise, K.M., Cleary, D.V., & Marder, A.R. (2013). Co-occurrence of potentially preventable factors in 256 dog bite-related fatalities in the United States (2000-2009). Journal of the American Veterinary Medical Association, 243(12), 1726-1736.</span></blockquote>
<b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A</span></b>nother interesting study was done by the American Academy of Forensic Sciences. They found a correlation between vicious dogs and their owners. It seems many people with anti-social tendencies have a tendency to own dogs considered to be dangerous. The following information was taken from Wikipedia:<br />
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<li id="cite_note-40" style="-webkit-column-break-inside: avoid; margin-bottom: 0.1em; page-break-inside: avoid;"><b>Abstract:</b> Every year over 885,000 dog bites require serious medical attention. Based on human injury and insurance claims, six dog breeds were designated as “vicious” (Akitas, Chows, Dobermans, Pit Bulls, Rottweilers, and Wolf-mixes). This study was conducted to expand on previous research examining antisocial tendencies and personality styles of people choosing to own vicious breeds. Seven hundred and fifty-four college students completed a questionnaire assessing type of dog owned, criminal thinking, callousness, personality, alcohol usage, and deviant lifestyle behaviors. Vicious dog owners reported significantly higher criminal thinking, entitlement, sentimentality, and superoptimism tendencies. Vicious dog owners were arrested, engaged in physical fights, and used marijuana significantly more than other dog owners. <b>However, the homogeneous sample utilized could impact the generalizability of these findings.</b> Choosing to own a vicious dog may be a “thin slice” indicator of more antisocial tendencies.<span class="reference-text" style="background-color: #ddeeff; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 16.128000259399414px;">Schenk, Allison M.; Ragatz, Laurie L.; Fremouw, William J. (2012). "Vicious Dogs Part 2: Criminal Thinking, Callousness, and Personality Styles of Their Owners". <i>Journal of Forensic Sciences</i>(American Academy of Forensic Sciences) <b>57</b> (1): 152–59.<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digital_object_identifier" style="background: none; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Digital object identifier">doi</a>:<a class="external text" href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1111%2Fj.1556-4029.2011.01961.x" rel="nofollow" style="background: linear-gradient(transparent, transparent) 100% 50% no-repeat, url(data:image/svg+xml; color: #663366; padding-right: 13px; text-decoration: none;">10.1111/j.1556-4029.2011.01961.x</a>.</span></li>
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<b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><i>L</i></span></b>et's go back and visit Miami and Dade County for another look at generalizations with roots embedded in knee-jerk reactions. Trayvon Martin was a young man in a hoodie who died at the hands of someone who thought he looked suspicious. There's many sides to that story including racial profiling and generalizations based upon race and clothing. Many folks including President Obama believe that creating new laws will help balance racial inequalities. Making new laws could have an impact. Maybe we need a law that would prohibit volunteer neighborhood watchmen from carrying a gun. This isn't an article about anybody's guilt or innocence. Nor is it an expose' on the tragedy surrounding the death of Trayvon Martin. This is an appeal for you as a mentor to look deeply into yourself and examine your motives for becoming a mentor. This is an appeal for you as a mentor to look for any profiling tendencies in your own character.<br />
<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">G</span></i></b>eorge Zimmerman bought a gun because of several altercations with a pit bull. He was advised by an animal control officer to get a gun for protection instead of pepper spray. Nobody has blamed the pit bull for causing the death of Trayvon. George became a neighborhood watchman because of a string of robberies in his neighborhood allegedly committed by young African American men. It seems to me that Trayvon fit the profile of Zimmerman's preconceived suspicions. Trayvon could fit the profile of thousands of inner city young men all over this country; Basically good hearted young guys who sometimes make bad decisions based on their immaturity who need a mentor. Laws do protect people. Mentors help people grow more compassionate so they don't break laws.<br />
<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">"S</span></i></b>uspicious Minds" was a song made famous by Elvis Presley. If you have a suspicious mind regarding the behavior of the person you are mentoring, what are your suspicions based on? Is there evidence in their actions that suggests a reason for you to be suspicious?<br />
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<i>"<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Be aware that a suspicious mind will manufacture suspicions and place them like labels on the hearts of other people. Something that never existed can manifest itself through suspicion."</span></i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>I</i></b></span> was a teenager at football camp during my sophomore in high school. I was in the restroom with a friend who was smoking a cigarette. I did not smoke at the time. My friend asked me to hold his cigarette while he washed his hands. The Coach walked in and saw me holding the cigarette. I was accused of breaking team policy and I was suspended. Nobody believed that I wasn't smoking. To teach those "know-it-all's" a lesson, I decided to start smoking. I smoked for about sixteen years after that. As a young man my decision making ability was impaired by immaturity. The suspicions of adults based upon generalizations had a hand in my bad decision. I do not blame them but I do see a better way as an adult mentor. All children are equal. All children deserve compassion. All children deserve a mentor.<br />
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<li>Do you have any unhealed areas in your heart that you place on other people?</li>
<li>Are you a suspicious person?</li>
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<li>love </li>
<li>joy </li>
<li>peace </li>
<li>patience </li>
<li>kindness </li>
<li>goodness </li>
<li>faithfulness </li>
<li>gentleness </li>
<li>self-control</li>
<li>endurance</li>
<li>perseverance</li>
<li>compassion</li>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>M</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial;">y wife and I watched a program last night about sea otters. Along the coast of California, the sea otters have made a comeback after being hunted to near extinction. The absence of a creature that only grows to about six feet or less can change the balance of an entire ecosystem. Small things make a big difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial;">ea otters need to consume mass quantities of food in order to survive. They live in waters ranging from 35* to 60* F and are sometimes referred to as a "swimming furnace." Their high metabolisms that help to keep them warm are fueled by the consumption of up to 30% of their body weight. Otters are carnivorous and eat sea urchins among other creatures in the deep green sea. By eating sea urchins, the sea otter is contributing to the over all health of the ecosystem. All creatures play a valuable part on planet earth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>K</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial;">elp and algae are the main foods consumed by the sea urchin. Without the predatorial influence of the sea otter who eats the sea urchin, the kelp and algae that are needed by an abundance of marine life will be depleted by the urchins appetite. Kelp does not have any roots and is secured to the sea floor by a "holdfast" which is a root-like mass that secures the plant to the sea floor. They aren't true roots because they don't carry nutrition to the plant. Healthy marine life depends on balance and the sea otter keeps the population of sea urchins in check thereby ensuring an adequate kelp canopy as habitat for other species of fish. Even though the holdfast does not carry nutrition, it provides a foundation for the kelp and shelter for for an innumerable amount of creatures. Young people need a root system that gives them a foundation from which to be fed sustenance that will balance their mental, physical, emotional and social growth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> </span><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-large; font-style: italic;">A </b><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">growing child needs a healthy balance of emotional and social nutrition. If the child's ecosystem or family structure breaks down, a child can be influenced by the lack of emotional support. Many children are starved for attention and acknowledgement. A mentor/teacher who knows how to build relationships with children can help them build their self confidence.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>C</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hildren grow as high energy sponges - soaking in their surroundings. Their decision making ability does not reach full maturity until they are in their early twenties. By giving young people the understanding of how to balance their social and emotional ecosystems, a mentor/teacher helps to create and protect the "Adolescent Ecosystem." </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b> through "No-Trace Trekking" in the <st1:place w:st="on">Adirondack</st1:place> Wilderness. </b></span></span><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city>. If we can help you reach your
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The new paradigm of mentoring is
cooperation based and ever evolving to meet the needs of an increasingly expanding
education community. Traditionally, mentoring has been accepted as a
developmental relationship between an older, experienced person and a younger
person who is lacking life experience. In this new cooperation based paradigm
shift, mentors have stepped into the role as a team member with teachers. </div>
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The increased expectations placed
on teachers through higher learning standards have diminished the teacher's ability
to adequately cover life skills. By partnering with a ClassroomMentor who
reinforces the regular core curriculums as well as introducing life skills, the
students will be better prepared academically and socially. </div>
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<b>LGM - Large Group Mentoring (</b>Assemblies that are
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<b>CRM - Classroom Mentoring</b> (In school during regular
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<b>SGM</b> - <b>Small Group</b> <b>Mentoring</b> (After
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<b>IM </b>- <b>Individual Mentoring</b> or one on one
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<b><i>T</i></b>here are different
types of Mentoring Programs. Large Group Mentoring is done through assembly
programs that are related to other ongoing character education efforts within
the school. A good way to jumpstart any life skills program is through an
assembly that generates interest, understanding and enthusiasm. A good assembly
leader will introduce the benefits of students respecting each other and their
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Classroom Mentoring (CRM) happens
generally during the school day. A trained <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city> becomes a Team-Teacher with an
Educator from the school. Life skills taught through a Mentoring Curriculum are
combined with a Health Class (or any other class.) The <st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place> helps to reinforce the Educational
Curriculum while combining it with Life Skills instruction.</div>
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Another phase of Mentoring is the
Small Group Mentoring (SGM.) Examples of SGM would appear in After School
Programs, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, youth groups etc. <span style="text-indent: 0.5in;">The third phase is an Individual
Mentoring relationship (IMR) is a one on one match between individuals. Mentoring is helping schools give their students more opportunities to succeed academically, socially and emotionally.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Bob Kuebler<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Founder / <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city> Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city>. If we can help you reach your
potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">716-830-8240 <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-5033484191943979842014-06-30T13:33:00.001-07:002014-06-30T13:33:29.814-07:00WHEN A MENTOR IS STARVED<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i><b><span style="font-size: small;">"Climbing the mountains of life is done one character building step at a time."</span></b></i></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i> C</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">onflict is an inevitable part of any relationship. Discipline and teaching are synonyms that will become wisdom when they applied. Mentoring children over a long period of time will reveal the character flaws of both you and your mentoree. That might might shock you to think that you might have a character flaw.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>C</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">hildren learn at different speeds and mature at different ages. A simple concept for you might be like a rocket science equation for them. Your patience will be tested as you try and grow your mentoring relationship. Let me describe the garden where conflict is most likely to grow. Let's use the word: "STARVED" as the acronym for our garden, The following conditions can cause conflict; you need to examine your reactions to each condition before you react in an adverse manner.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span> - <span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>Starved</i></b></span></span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You might be hungry and this will affect your body and your mind. Hungry people tend to get grumpy.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Are either you or your mentoree starved for attention? A child will do almost anything to get some attention. Don't overreact to attention getting ploys.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People who are emotionally drained need a rest. Children need to be told to take a break. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many adults continue working while they are in the midst of burn-out.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Anger can be generational in nature, especially in families of absentee dad's.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Children get angry when they feel you don't really care about them.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A child may disrespect authority because the authority figures in his life have let him down.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">One bad teacher can cause all teachers to be painted with the same brush in the mind of a child.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Some children are passive in relationships because they don't feel cared for.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you don't have energy to continue as a mentor then have the courage to let go.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Too much ego can lead to arrogant selfishness. You are not even close to perfect.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Children have to outgrow their sense of entitlement and this is agonizingly slow.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>D - Depressed</i></b></span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Life is filled with ups and downs. An adult should be able to recognize the cause.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Children often do not know why they are sad, they end up just getting mad.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>Y</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ou will do things that you have to apologize for. A child will learn how to apologize by watching you. The imperfection in you works together with your apology to create a nugget of learning in a child's heart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Thanks for your time. </span><span style="font-family: Arial;">Go do something nice for somebody.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Founder / <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city> Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city>. If we can help you reach your potential
as a Mentoring organization please contact us: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">716-830-8240 <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"> mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;"><a href="http://www.youthwithapurpose.org/">www.youthwithapurpose.org</a><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-5604296213245419082014-06-23T07:28:00.000-07:002014-06-23T07:28:25.947-07:00MENTORING ON THE EDGE OF A CLIFF<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<i><span style="font-family: Arial;">A <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city></st1:place> stands on the cliff and sees potential!<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>W</i></b></span>e live in the age of testing. Our education system has been reduced to test taking. If a child fails a test, are they a failure or did they choke under pressure? If they choked, are they a failure or a choke? Many children who fail begin to feel inferior and quit school. Quitting is like jumping off the cliff instead of hanging in there and seeing potential. Does a persons performance under pressure give a true representation of their intelligence, learning or test preparation? What does all this mean for a Mentor?<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>P</i></b></span>rofessional athletes have been known to choke under pressure. Until they have "won the big game" they will be known as chokes. If a child repeatedly gets less than satisfactory grades, they will be labelled as a poor or mediocre learner. The Teacher of that child will be viewed professionally through the lens of a child's failure. There are many things that affect test scores. Injustice is something that visits all people indiscriminately. When it happens to a child, the pressure will affect them adversely. Is a Mentor responsible for helping a child get better grades?<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>ABSOLUTELY! </i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">he role of a Mentor is similar to the role of a gardener. A better description might be to call the Mentor a "</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Heart Farmer</i></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">." The heart of a child is a garden; it grows with plants and weeds amongst rocks and thorns. The neighborhood where a child lives may be bully patch of thorns. A walk home from school may be painful or dangerous. The boy or girl next door may be a gang member attempting to spread the weeds of their illicit business into the life of a child. An absentee dad is a stumbling rock. Your role as a Mentor is to help a child understand that injustice happens to everybody in some degree. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">ome children seem to suffer more than others. Learning to do your best in all circumstances is a skill that can be taught. Conflict is a normal part of the growth cycle. Learning how to deal with conflict will help a child weather the storms that might cause choking and failure. As a Mentor, here are some key words to study and teach:</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Commitment</b> - <i>Long term commitment to becoming an overcomer.</i></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Perseverance</b> - <i>Know when to persevere and when to move on.</i></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Compassion</b> - <i>Go the extra mile when somebody deserves less.</i></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Knowledge </b>- <i>Study the heart garden of the child you are mentoring.</i></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Prepare</b> - <i>Develop a plan of action that helps a child become an over-comer.</i> </span></li>
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>. If we can help you reach your potential
as a Mentoring organization please contact us: </div>
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mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. </div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-65238662680288398282014-06-10T06:28:00.000-07:002014-06-10T06:28:29.866-07:00The Shooter's Saggin' Shorts <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>D</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">uring the summer months when lethargy and idleness become gateways to risky temptations, several inner city organizations turn up the heat of opportunity. Urban Christian Ministries has been keeping kids busy for over forty years. Block Club Basketball brings young people and their communities together for some good old teamwork and sportsmanship. Lessons are learned, discipline is taught and friendships are made.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">here is a "No Rump Rule" during Block Club Basketball. That means you are not allowed to let your shorts sag down and reveal your rump. Do I need to explain that any further? There are many things in a young person's life that can cause saggin' self respect. Certain customs that have been firmly entrenched in the consciousness of generations of families become acceptable and almost honorable. Going to jail is considered a vacation. A tear drop tattoo is a medal of honor for killing somebody. The history of saggin' pants revolves around prison inmates who've lost their self respect. Lack of self respect has become an acceptable character trait exhibited by millions of young men who are fatherless. Every man is called to be a father. Every woman is called to be a mother.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">aggin' pants and the "No Rump Rule" are a result of young men not learning how to be fathers. They haven't learned how to be a father because they haven't had a father. I visited a young man in jail last month. While I was there, he was looking on the prison database to see if his father was in the same jail. He hadn't seen him in years and he was still trying to meet up with his Dad. He's twenty one now and facing over twenty years in jail on Federal charges. When he was fifteen years old, I was driving him to school and he thought he saw his Dad driving by. He said he hadn't seen him in years.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">elf respect is taught through discipline and love. You need to have a relationship with someone before you can speak into their life. Urban Christian Ministries has been speaking discipline and love for over four decades. That's the same amount of time that many of our young people will spend in jail if we don't show them a father's love.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Thanks for your time.</i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Go do something nice for somebody.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Founder / <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city> Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build
healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>. If we can help you reach your
potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">716-830-8240 </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. </span></div>
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<a href="http://www.youthwithapurpose.org/"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">www.youthwithapurpose.org</span></a></div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-52550905721910596202014-05-05T19:16:00.001-07:002014-05-05T19:16:40.228-07:00Ballers Breakfast<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/qLP3WRv__F0" width="480"></iframe>Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-91127260839113923862014-05-02T13:12:00.001-07:002014-05-02T13:12:41.232-07:00MENTOR HABITS<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">O</span></i></b>nce upon a time I sat down to make a list of what I thought were my bad habits. When I got to bad habit number nineteen I decided I better stop creating the list and start working on my deficiencies! We all have bad habits. Do you have the courage and self confidence to ask someone about your bad habits?<div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><i><b>T</b></i></span>ransparency is "must have" quality in a mentor. Young people can see right through you. Being a fake and a fraud is one thing but pretending to be perfect is destructively hypocritical. It takes courage and vulnerability to admit weakness. Give up your false sense of security created through the facade of adulthood. It will only impair your ability to form productive relationships. </div>
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<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">A</span></i></b>sk your mentoree to tell you one or two things that they think will improve your character. What do you do that bugs them? Discuss character and give examples of exemplary character. I read a story in a book called "Up From Slavery" by Booker Washington. He told of a slave who had made a contract for his freedom with the man who owned him. He agreed to pay a certain sum of money for his freedom. He signed this contract while he was still a slave and before the end of the Civil War. Once the War was over, all slaves were declared free. The man was no longer a slave and nobody could force him to continue paying for his freedom. He paid anyway. The former slave continued to pay his former owner until the debt was paid. The man said he gave his word and he would honor it. Regardless of what you think about that story, the man had the kind of integrity that all of us should have. The world would be a better place if we all kept our word.</div>
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships
that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student
has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Mentor</st1:place></st1:city>.
If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please
contact us: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">716-830-8240 or
mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. www.youthwithapurpose.org<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-21037437347578513832014-04-24T07:18:00.000-07:002014-04-24T07:18:07.439-07:00ARE YOU A THREAT TO YOUR BOSS?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i> T</i></b></span>oday's mentoring tip is about the relationship that mentors have with their employers. We recognize the fact that folks who are mentors also have a life beyond their mentoring aspirations; they have a job. What relationship building characteristics are most beneficial when you are on the job?<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i> T</i></b></span>he most important thing you can ever do is become a threat to your boss. No, I am not telling you to abuse or hurt them! If you are going the extra mile in the function of your responsibilities, it may be possible for you to be recognized as a "go-getter" who is worthy of advancement. Ask yourself some hard questions and see if you fill the bill as a "Boss-threat". The following list of "thinking-points" are designed to give you some thoughts to chew on.<br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Loyalty</b></span> - <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Are you loyal to incompetency? There are incompetent bosses in the world - be loyal to them. This means that you do not undermine them by talking behind their back. You will not be viewed as an aspiring leader if you use finger-pointing instead of idea creation. Serve your boss, honor your boss and complement your boss - honestly.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Extra Miles</b></span> - <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This is not a synonym for overtime! Do you do more than what's expected of you? You may not feel like your efforts have been recognized but you reap what you sow. That's a guaranteed principle of life. Serving without expectation is like dropping a seed in the ground. Have you ever heard the sound of seed being dropped in the ground? Of course you haven't because there is no sound! The seed is so small and the soil so soft that there is no sound. Don't expect the sound of "thank you" for going the extra mile.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Put the Company First </b></span>- <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This may not be your dream job but it pays your bills. Act as if it is your dream job and life will be easier as long as you are employed there. Be alert for opportunities to help you boss become more successful in his role as a leader.</span></li>
<li><b><span style="font-size: large;">Transparency -</span></b> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You may have some initiatives of your own that you are working on. Ask yourself if this is something that your boss should know about. Keeping secrets may give the impression that you are being dishonest or working on a project that has not been approved by your boss.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>A good Mentor puts other folks first and serves them as an "Extra-miler!"</b></span><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Thanks for your time. </span></i><br />
<i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Go do something nice for somebody.</span></i><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Bob Kuebler</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Founder / <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city> Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships
that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student
has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>.
If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please
contact us: </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">716-830-8240 or mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com.
www.youthwithapurpose.org</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We are available for school assemblies and educator
conferences </span></div>
Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-51509306226829883962014-04-17T07:26:00.001-07:002014-04-17T07:26:33.006-07:00POVERTY CAN BE AN ADVANTAGE<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span>here are many of us who spend our lives building relationships with young people in violent and impoverished areas. Learning how to embrace struggle is one of the keys to success. Just for clarity and understanding purposes, my definition of success is simply another word for: "trying." Someone who never gives up regardless of the adversity that one is faced with, is successful.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>P</i></b></span>overty can become a prison. Many poor folks embrace social service programs and church hand-outs as a type of freedom from their misery. Those hand-outs can become the handlebars of a life prison cell. Children in our schools need to be taught the benefits of embracing struggle. If you read our Mentor Force Tips with any regularity, you most likely have read about our teaching curriculum called: "<b>The BDP Theory</b>."<br />
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<li><b style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-size: large;">B</span>utterfly's are created to struggle from their cocoon to freedom. </i></b></li>
<li><b style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-size: large;">D</span>iamonds are created through hard times and pressure.</i></b></li>
<li><b style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-size: large;">P</span>earls are created through irritants.</i></b></li>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>T</i></b></span>he life story of Booker T. Washington contained in his book: "Up From Slavery" should be required reading for every human being with a heartbeat. One's circumstances in life need not be a prison of acceptance. Teaching children to "Try, try again" will help instill initiative in their hearts. Here is a passage from Booker's book about success:<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #000020;"> <span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"In later years, I confess that I do not envy the white boy as I once did. I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed. Looked at from this standpoint, I almost reach the conclusion that often the Negro boy’s birth and connection </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #000020;">with an unpopular race is an advantage, so far as real life is concerned. With few exceptions, the Negro youth must work harder and must perform his task even better than a white youth in order to secure recognition. But out of the hard and unusual struggle through which he is compelled to pass, he gets a strength, a confidence, that one misses whose pathway is comparatively smooth by reason of birth and race."</span> </span></blockquote>
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Thanks for your time.<br />
Go do something nice for somebody.<br />
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Bob Kuebler<br />
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Founder / <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city> Force<br />
<br />
Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships
that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student
has the benefit of being guided by a <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>.
If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please
contact us: </div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
716-830-8240 or mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. www.youthwithapurpose.org</div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt;">We are available for school assemblies and educator
conferences</span></div>
Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-11475026057074234482014-04-10T06:27:00.000-07:002014-04-10T06:27:11.567-07:00MENTORING for TEACHERS<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>B</i></b></span>uilding relationships with children is more important than teaching them. Without a relationship, some students will be unreachable. In his book called "EDUCATING FOR CHARACTER" Thomas Lickona uses this phrase to describe the importance of relationship:<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"First you reach 'em, then you teach 'em."</span></i></b></blockquote>
It is not easy in a large classroom to build fruitful personal relationships with all of your students. Do your best to keep a personal file of all of that you have observed about what makes a student happy, motivated, irritated, sad or angry. To do that I suggest the "BDP Principle."<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>B</i></b></span> is for <b>B</b>utterfly. What does your student struggle with? What gives your student freedom? What causes his mood to fly with happiness?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> A teacher is a mentor of the highest order. Mentoring is done in large groups, small groups and individually. Whenever possible, take the time approach a child individually to build a deeper relationship. Maybe once a week you can invite students to sit with you at lunch. They probably would feel important and honored to be considered worthy of your personal time.</span></div>
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Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships
that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student
has the benefit of being Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for
somebody.<br />
guided by a <st1:city w:st="on">Mentor</st1:city>.
If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please
contact us: 716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com We do school
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-61946331191804980962014-04-07T08:29:00.000-07:002014-04-07T08:29:57.013-07:00HOW to MENTOR Part Two<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We hope your day is filled with heart smiles! In our last post on "How to Start Mentoring - Part One" we told you about the "UGLY FISH SHARE" or personal interests inventory. We said we would share our UGLY FISH SHARE with you so here it is, enjoy and happy relationship building! <div>
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<li>You pick and choose from among the questions, </li>
<li>PERSONALIZE IT! </li>
<li>One good method of gaining information about somebody is the "Interview Method." Pretend you are a famous Talk Show Host like Bob Letterhead or Opera Winfred and conduct a humorous interview with your new mentoree. You both will smile!</li>
<li>If you find an ugly fish (topic that really interests your mentoree) GO WITH THE FLOW!</li>
<li>This is just an "Icebreaker" or "Get-To-Know-You" exercise. Build a relationship before you build rules.</li>
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Please contact us with any questions or suggestions: mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com</div>
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Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.<br />Bob Kuebler<br />Founder / Mentor Force<br /><br />Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com We do school assemblies and conferences.<div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-86778037813737700612014-04-07T06:05:00.000-07:002014-04-07T06:52:29.462-07:00HOW TO DISSOLVE SEGREGATION & THE ALPHABET OF INTEGRATION<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>S</i></b></span>egregation can be dissolved by integrating opportunities into the minds of children. Education is the greatest integrator and equalizer of humanity. Urge every child you know to become what they dream about. Teach them to view all of their classmates as gifted, talented and equal in their own way. Guide children down the pathways of acceptance and compassion. Mentor children by paving the road that bypasses the exit for self-segregation. Help young people integrate into the eyes of their souls; a vision of unlimited potential contained in every person they meet.<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-size: large;">C</span></i></b>ounsel children regarding discernment: there will always be folks with hardened hearts who may do them harm. A hardened heart is a hurting person who was the victim of fear. Self-segregation is a synonym for close-mindedness. Self-segregation is the seed that germinates and grows into a segregationist society. Self-segregation is birthed anew in each generation.<br />
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<b><i><span style="font-size: large;">T</span></i></b>oday in our <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MentorForce">Mentor Force</a> programs we will be teaching the Alphabet of Integration. As a personal action step that will help dissolve segregation, how many of these words can you put into action?<br />
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The ALPHABET of INTEGRATION</h2>
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Acceptance - Accept somebody as they are without trying to change them.<br />
Benevolent - Go do something nice for somebody.<br />
Connection - Connect with somebody new from a different race or culture.<br />
Direction - Are you content to have somebody follow the direction of your life?<br />
Empathize - Can you walk a mile in another person's shoes?<br />
Forgive - Yourself! Let go of prejudgment based on race or life status.<br />
Generous - Give away a good word to make somebody feel valued.<br />
Harmony - Find a conflict and create peace.<br />
Inspire - Find potential and help somebody take a step to their dream.<br />
Justice - Can you find a law that promotes segregation?<br />
Knowledge - Seek to learn and practice ways to create equal opportunity.<br />
Liberty - Teach someone how they can use education to be freed from poverty.<br />
Movement - Motivate a group of students to become a force for change.<br />
Nurture - Take one step, plant a seed, just smile and say hello.<br />
Overcome - Struggles are meant to help you become stronger and more efficient.<br />
Positive - All things work together for good if we focus on being optimistic.<br />
Quiet - Take time to listen to the heart of another human being.<br />
Relationships - What can you learn from somebody who irritates you?<br />
Serve - Do something nice for somebody without expectation. <br />
Team - Form a group of folks who are unified and diversified.<br />
Understand - Seek first to understand, then to be understood.<br />
Virtue - Make a list of your character traits and change your bad habits.<br />
Welfare - Help someone learn about accountability and self sufficiency.<br />
Xenophobia - How can you conquer the fear of people you have never met?<br />
Yield - Surrender a preconceived judgment and take a risk.<br />
Zealous - Be eager and enthusiastic in your efforts to embrace equality for all folks.<br />
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Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.<br />
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/bob.kuebler">Bob Kuebler</a> Founder/Mentor Force<br />
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Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 or mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com We do school assemblies and conferences.<br />
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-84744317536333728982014-04-03T09:36:00.000-07:002014-04-03T09:36:20.076-07:00In The Beginning - How To Start Mentoring Part One<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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This Mentor Force Tip is designed for folks who have already gone through a Mentor Training. Even if you are someone who has not gone through training, you will learn something of value here. This information will guide you into a place where you can make a personal decision about getting involved in mentoring. If you have gone through a training that is given by one of our Relationship Mentors from Mentor Force this will be a refresher course for you.<br />
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In any youth organization, part of your vision statement should include a plan for turning mentorees into mentors. Here is the Mentor Force definition of what mentoring is:<br />
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<i><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">"Mentoring is the unfolding of a relationship with a mentoree that becomes a relationship passed on through duplication as the pupil becomes a teacher."</span></i><br />
<i><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"> Bob Kuebler</span></i><br />
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How do you move your mentorees into the position of being a mentor? </h4>
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Use the Ugly Fish Share </h4>
This is simply a Personal Interest Survey where your mentorees can fill out information about their dreams, likes, dislikes and hobbies. A good mentor will study the person they are mentoring to get to know them better. Good conversation starters can be based on the interests of the mentoree. The term "Ugly Fish" refers to a trophy fish that someone might mount on a wall. The ugly fish will announce that they are proud of that fish and most likely would love to tell you the fish story behind it. When people are given a chance to share about something important in their lives they are more likely to open up and start a conversation.<br />
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<span style="font-weight: normal;">Both the mentor and the mentoree should share their ugly fishes or life stories or personal inventory - YOU GIVE IT A NAME! Try to personalize every aspect of your mentoring relationship. We do feel satisfaction when somebody refers to our material as coming from Mentor Force and we do have copyrights - but you can do the same thing we are doing! We will post our "Ugly Fish Share" or the "Personal Interests Inventory" in our next post and you are free to use it. However please personalize it for your mentors and mentorees. For instance, if you are primarily a girls mentoring outfit then make it girly or appealing to girls. Put a quote from a famous lady on your survey like: <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><i><span style="font-weight: normal;">"Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies." </span></i></span><br />
<span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><i>Mother Teresa</i></span></span></blockquote>
If you are part of a guys program that takes young men into the mountains you might have a quote like: <span class="text Isa-52-7" id="en-NKJV-18704"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><i><span class="text Isa-52-7" id="en-NKJV-18704">"How beautiful upon the mountains</span><br /><span class="text Isa-52-7">Are the feet of him who brings good news,</span><br /><span class="text Isa-52-7">Who proclaims peace,</span><br /><span class="text Isa-52-7">Who brings glad tidings of good things,"</span></i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><i><span class="text Isa-52-7">Isaiah 52-7 (New King James Bible) </span></i></span></blockquote>
The point here folks is PERSONALIZE, PERSONALIZE, PERSONALIZE!<br />
Get Personal! <br />
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<br />“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care” <br /> ― <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/44567.Theodore_Roosevelt">Theodore Roosevelt</a>
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<br /><i>Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.</i><br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
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<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span>We do school assemblies and conferences. </h4>
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Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.<br />
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Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.<br />
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Mother Teresa
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b> W</b></span>hen I lived in the suburbs my idea of right and wrong is different than it is now. I looked at folks in the city and wondered: "What's the matter with these people? Don't they know right from wrong? Why do they kill, steal and destroy each other?" I had a "mightier than thou" attitude. I was arrogant, judgmental, and haughty. I thought that the version of right and wrong in my brain was the only acceptable version. Then I moved into the city and experienced the "Hood version of right and wrong.<br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;">T</span></b>he young girl who was about 12 years old came into the Youth Center with tears in her eyes. She was crying and afraid. She told me that a gang was after her brother and wanted to kill him. She said that a gang member told her:<br />
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<b>"We are going to kill your brother so don't get in the way. When he gets out of jail, we will come into your house and shoot anybody who gets in the way. We will shoot you, your mom, baby brother or anybody else who gets in the way." </b></blockquote>
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I knew that she was telling the truth and that this was a real possibility based on the current events including dead young people in our neighborhood. I knew her brother carried a gun when he was on the streets. I always told the young men that they should not carry guns. They said they needed them for protection. Life here in an area known as: "World War III" can quickly change a persons perspective.<br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;">I</span></b> have never carried a gun in my life. Even after threats on my life and being on the scene of shootings, I never felt the need to carry a weapon. For me it's a faith issue - I believe that God put me here. If I'm doing what God has called me to do then nothing will happen to me. My haughty perspective has changed regarding right and wrong. I used to be quick to tell a young man when I thought he was doing something wrong. I try not to do that anymore. I listen and try to understand his perspective. Only after I understand his life and I have a personal relationship with him will I interject my opinion on right and wrong.<br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><b>A</b></span> persons view of right from wrong is based on their culture and life experience. If I grow up in a family that drinks alcoholic beverages very heavily, then I believe that it is right to be able to drink that much. If I live in a safe neighborhood where there is no danger of being assaulted with a deadly weapon, then I think that we don't need guns to protect ourselves. If I grow up in a culture where men treat women like furniture and have multiple wives, then I will have the same attitude where ever I go. <br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;">M</span></b>entoring is not an exact science but here is what I would consider an "absolute:" Form a relationship with somebody before you force feed your opinions down their throat. Understand their life as best as you can before demonstrating superiority in your character over theirs. It is not right to shoot somebody. You can take the guns out of their hands by modelling a kind way of life - forgive your enemies. Teach young men how to respect women by doing what you preach. Hypocrisy is one of the biggest wrongs in the world and prevents young minds from learning what's right. A mentors job is to form healthy relationships with healthy boundaries. A condescending "know-it-all" who judges people without attempting to understand somebody is a contributor to more wrongs than rights. Be a good listener with the ears of your heart. Be compassionate and empathetic with a backbone. Speak the truth in love.<br />
<i>Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.</i><br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
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<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span>We do school assemblies and conferences. </div>
Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-67149893886026173322014-03-21T07:54:00.000-07:002014-03-21T08:47:06.284-07:00Molding the Mentor Mind<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><b>Some young people will take you right to the rocky edge of your emotional cliff. There is always hope on the horizon.</b></td></tr>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"> A</span></b>ll of us have had someone walk into a room and our first thought upon seeing them is:<br />
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<i>"Oh no! There goes my day!"</i> </blockquote>
With that thought we have already set our selves up for a negative experience. The atmosphere around us might as well be supercharged with negative molecules that are destructively contagious. Your mind has been molded into a cynical and pessimistic embodiment of hostility. You might as well hang a shingle on your forehead that says: "Hater!"<br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;"> T</span></b>here is a better way. You better find a better way or you will not make a very good Mentor. Long term perseverance is the best indicator of a successful mentoring relationship. There will be some young people that you will not be able to mentor because of volatile personality traits. However, in the vast majority of relationships you will find some rocky roads. You obviously do not expect life to be perfect and that applies to your mentoring life. Look into the potential of the person you are mentoring and you may see a different person.<br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;"> I</span></b>'m sure you have heard of the expression "a diamond in the rough." When you get a glimpse of somebody that has previously caused an unpleasant experience in your life, start looking for diamonds! Your thoughts can be influenced by your perceptions. Your thoughts can control your interactions with people. Your expectations can shape your thoughts. You will smile a lot more if you put this concept into practice. Imagine yourself saying: "Oh boy! Here comes another diamond!"<br />
<b><span style="font-size: large;"> E</span></b>ach child you mentor represents a future diamond. It takes time to make a diamond and they are molded through pressure, stress, and hard times. Expect the best when you meet the worst. Mold your mind into gem making motor, you will be a successful and smiling Mentor!<br />
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<i>Thanks for your time. </i><br />
<i>Go do something nice for somebody. </i><br />
<br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span>We do school assemblies and conferences. <br />
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-59020980002687091942014-03-14T07:37:00.000-07:002014-03-14T07:37:42.711-07:00Heartitudes for Mentors<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">A Mentor can be a warm heart in the middle of a cold place.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b> I</b></span> hope your day is filled with heart smiles. A Mentor should have a great big heart. Here are some qualities that you would desire in a Mentor's Heart. They will help guide you in your relationships along the mentoring road.<br />
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1. <b>Always keep your word. </b><br />
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<li>Give your word.</li>
<li>Do your word. </li>
<li>Be your word. </li>
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2. <b>Keep your engagements.</b><br />
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<li>Be on time.</li>
<li>The only reason to cancel is an emergency.</li>
<li>Keep your appointments, be committed to people.</li>
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3. <b>Be reliable.</b></div>
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<li>Be dependable</li>
<li>Build your reputation as somebody who can be counted on.</li>
<li>Never give up.</li>
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<i>Thanks for your time. </i><br />
<i>Go do something nice for somebody. </i><br />
<br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span><br />
We do school assemblies and conferences. We will design a program for your school or organization. </div>
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Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-16551519537430121562014-03-13T04:49:00.000-07:002014-03-13T04:49:08.921-07:00Mentor Ripples<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Imagine the ripples made in a city by those in high places.</td></tr>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"> I</span></b>f you throw 2 stones into a pond simultaneously, they will both make a splash. If one stone is larger than the other it will produce a larger splash. Imagine the ripples on the surface of the pond spreading out from the point of impact. The ripples from the larger stone will eventually intersect and overwhelm the ripples made by the smaller stone. <br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Y</span></b>our words and actions as a Mentor cause ripples in the mind of your Mentoree. Are the ripples of your life positive and constructive or negative and destructive? One negative word or action has the power to annihilate all of the positive impressions that you've made. You are not expected to be perfect but you must set the bar of expectation for yourself so high that your margin of error is minimal. Your errors must be no bigger than the ripples of the smaller stone that are cancelled by the ripples of your good character.<br />
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Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody. <br />
<br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span><br />
We do school assemblies and conferences. We will design a program for your school or organization. </div>
Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-77079052470089748152014-03-12T08:31:00.000-07:002014-03-12T08:31:18.288-07:00Attitudes Are More Powerful Than Capabilities<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>E</b></span>veryday there are new accomplishments, new dreams attained, records are broken, underdogs become victors and miracles happen. Your attitude as a Mentor matters.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">I</span></b>f you plant seeds of negativity, your growth will be negative. If you focus on being positive, you will become a positive person and influence others in a positive way. You will grow into a Negativitree or a Positivitree.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b> A</b></span>s a Mentor, these words should become indelibly etched upon your heart:<br />
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<b>"Positive words only are spoken, </b></div>
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<b>negative words make people feel broken."</b></div>
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Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody. <br />
<br />
Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy
relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure
that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span><br />
We do school assemblies and conferences. We will design a program for your school or organization. </div>
Bob Kueblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00904537926930920714noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871985869275584027.post-41657721998526987782014-03-10T09:33:00.002-07:002014-03-10T09:33:45.092-07:00A Mentor and a Woodpecker<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<i><b><span style="font-size: large;"> W</span></b></i>oodpeckers spend their days pounding their heads against trees and other hard materials. They have been created with very strong head and neck muscles that can absorb the shock of continuous pounding. As a Mentor you will have days when you feel like you are banging your head against a wall.<br />
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<i><b><span style="font-size: large;">P</span></b></i>erseverance is a "must-have" character trait in a Mentor. Patience is a "must-have" character trait in a Mentor. All people communicate differently. All people are capable of making bad decisions. The younger the person you are mentoring, the more likely the possibility of them making bad decisions. Commitment is another "must-have" character trait. Woodpeckers will make a larger hole to get at a larger meal. They don't give up easily.<br />
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<i><b><span style="font-size: large;">A</span></b></i>bandonment and rejection are deep rooted wounds that affect almost everybody at some point in life. An abandoned woodpecker nest can be filled by other birds. A wounded young person will try to fill their emptiness in other ways that can be destructive like sex, drugs or alcohol.You may be trying to help somebody and they might be rejecting your efforts. It's like banging your head against a wall. Keep trying, go the extra mile. Most likely the person rejecting you is unknowingly trying to protect their heart from more pain. Be prepared to not give up when mentoring gets hard.<br />
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Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody. <br />
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Bob Kuebler<br />
Founder / Mentor Force<br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.<br />
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.<br />
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of
being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a
Mentoring organization please contact us:
716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com </span><br />
We do school assemblies and conferences. We will design a program for your school or organization. <br />
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