This Mentor Force Tip is designed for folks who have already gone through a Mentor Training. Even if you are someone who has not gone through training, you will learn something of value here. This information will guide you into a place where you can make a personal decision about getting involved in mentoring. If you have gone through a training that is given by one of our Relationship Mentors from Mentor Force this will be a refresher course for you.
In any youth organization, part of your vision statement should include a plan for turning mentorees into mentors. Here is the Mentor Force definition of what mentoring is:
"Mentoring is the unfolding of a relationship with a mentoree that becomes a relationship passed on through duplication as the pupil becomes a teacher."
Bob Kuebler
Founder/Mentor Force
How do you move your mentorees into the position of being a mentor?
The following guidelines are taken from our training called: "Best-Practices in Mentoring."
Use the Ugly Fish Share
This is simply a Personal Interest Survey where your mentorees can fill out information about their dreams, likes, dislikes and hobbies. A good mentor will study the person they are mentoring to get to know them better. Good conversation starters can be based on the interests of the mentoree. The term "Ugly Fish" refers to a trophy fish that someone might mount on a wall. The ugly fish will announce that they are proud of that fish and most likely would love to tell you the fish story behind it. When people are given a chance to share about something important in their lives they are more likely to open up and start a conversation.
This is an ugly fish! http://www.outdoorlife.com/files/imagecache/photo-gallery/photo/1001321579/5_195.jpg
Share the Survey
Both the mentor and the mentoree should share their ugly fishes or life stories or personal inventory - YOU GIVE IT A NAME! Try to personalize every aspect of your mentoring relationship. We do feel satisfaction when somebody refers to our material as coming from Mentor Force and we do have copyrights - but you can do the same thing we are doing! We will post our "Ugly Fish Share" or the "Personal Interests Inventory" in our next post and you are free to use it. However please personalize it for your mentors and mentorees. For instance, if you are primarily a girls mentoring outfit then make it girly or appealing to girls. Put a quote from a famous lady on your survey like:
"Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."
If you are part of a guys program that takes young men into the mountains you might have a quote like:
Mother Teresa
"How beautiful upon the mountains
The point here folks is PERSONALIZE, PERSONALIZE, PERSONALIZE!
Are the feet of him who brings good news,
Who proclaims peace,
Who brings glad tidings of good things,"
Isaiah 52-7 (New King James Bible)
Get Personal!
Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.
Bob Kuebler
Founder / Mentor Force
Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.
We teach teachers, mentors and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships that make young people feel valued. Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 or ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com We do school assemblies and conferences.Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.
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