Mentoring In Emotional Storms

"Rain, rain go away,
Mentor come again
some other day."

         A Mentor will have emotionally rainy days when you'll need an umbrella of stability. The storms that a Mentor will face are generally incubated in the "atmos-fear" of the heart. Clouds will roll into the heart of a child in the form of negative life events resulting in "heart-humidity" or a heavy heart. If the heart continues to accumulate greater degrees of humidity, the "atmos-fear" begins to develop a rain storm of anger and frustration. Mood changes can happen quickly and cause chaos.
     Life-rain is composed of many droplets of activity than can destroy or nurture. Destruction can be turned into a new opportunity for growth in a greater way. How does a quick rain storm suddenly appear?

"Michael Wilkinson, Bernhard Mehlig and Vlad Bezuglyy explain how quick showers can result from a dramatic increase in the collision rate of microscopic water droplets when the turbulence intensity in the atmosphere exceeds a threshold. Their theory, published in a recent issue of Physical Review Letters, suggests that the collision rate suddenly increases when the velocity of the water droplets as a function of position forms “caustics,” becoming a multi-valued function. When particles at the same position are moving with different velocities, the probability for collision is greatly enhanced." Read more at: http://phys.org/news74873917.html#jCp¹

Let me attempt to rephrase that statement regarding a quick rain storm into a description of what people go through:

"When the turbulence intensity in the atmos-fear of a human heart exceeds the threshold of emotional tolerance, the velocity of volatility is increased until outbursts of fear, anger or sadness boil over into a storm of hopelessness."  

(Some folks get angry and blow their top when too many anxieties converge at once.)

How do you recognize the emotional rain clouds building in another person? If you allow yourself to "be present" with your Mentoree, you will have a greater relationship that allows you to sense their emotional state. Here are some signs to watch for:

1. They may simply start telling you all of their problems frantically.
2. Someone who acts agitated, depressed, moody or unable to concentrate.
3. Negative speech patterns expressing the desire to hurt oneself or commit suicide. 
4. Acting withdrawn or hopeless.
5. Displaying explosive anger.

          If you have a good relationship with someone and you know them well, you'll be able to pick up on potential emotional problems quite easily. If your relationship is just beginning it will be a bit harder. Being able to read emotional weather patterns takes time and study. Emotional problems that are not dealt with have the potential to develop into a storm. This chapter is designed to make you aware of the need to understand emotional weather patterns and their potentially volatile tendencies. In the next chapter we'll give you some tips on dealing with some emotional issues that may help you calm the brewing storm.

Thanks for your time.
Go do something nice for somebody.

Bob Kuebler

Founder / Mentor Force

Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.
We help young people who are at risk of leading impoverished and violent lives.
We teach teachers, mentors, coaches, parents and youth leaders how to build healthy relationships that make young people feel valued.

Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor.

 If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 

 mentorforcebuffalo@gmail.com. 

www.youthwithapurpose.org

We are available for school assemblies and educator conferences.      

References
¹  http://phys.org/news74873917.html