DIS-SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE

DIS-SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE

There is a rampant and highly contagious heart/sexual disease that is spread though dis-sexual contact. The incubation of this disease begins in the heart and soul of someone who is abused sexually. After the initial abuse and sometimes repeated abuse, the heart becomes infected with the dirt carried by the abuser. Unable to remove the dirt (or dirty feeling) the abused and disrespected victim begins to believe that they themselves are dirty. The disrespect begins to fester and boil in their soul until they begin to act in a disrespectful and dirty manner. Ultimately the disrespected victim becomes a disrespectful victimizer and continues to spread the dis-sexual disease.

CAUSE & EFFECT

Sex is meant to be a beautiful and endearing act of love.  The spread of Dis-sexual Disease is a disturbing trend of self disrespect that is destroying the potential of love. Statistics prove that a very high number of children are dis-sexually abused. Too often we focus on the effect and not on the cause. Putting dis-sexual predators in jail does nothing to stop the cause of dis-sexual disease. Counseling dis-sexually abused victims is a cause breaker that will heal people and destroy disease.

HOPE

If you are someone who has been disrespected, you need to believe: "I don't have to be what happened to me." You are not the dirt that you feel. You are not the person who was abused. You are not the same person today that you were yesterday. You are perfect just the way you are. There is nobody like you in the past. There's nobody like you in the future. There's nobody like you but you right now here in the present. Just believe that you were created for a purpose that is unique to you.

 Brokenness is the first step in the growth process. The farmer breaks the ground before he let's go of the seed. After he lets go, he plans for the future and builds a barn and silo to store his crops. Let go of your dreams into the brokenness of your life and plan for a future filled with hope. When you are feeling darkness close over you, imagine yourself as a seed buried in the soil of God's heart. He will never leave or forget you.

EARLY INTERVENTION & PREVENTION

Teaching children to respect and protect themselves at an early age should be proactively intense. Do not take for granted that nothing can happen to you or your child. Initiate open discussions about body parts, modesty and protection. Discuss with your child what to do if someone attempts to touch them inappropriately. Be extremely clear about what "inappropriately" means.

If you are a preteen or teenager, practice "safe behavior." That means hanging out with people you trust and avoiding dangerous situations. Many young people have been abused after somebody slipped something in their drink. Avoid people who talk about sex as if it's something cheap, fun and easy. A condom is not made in the shape of a heart. You cannot protect your heart with any kind of birth control. The best practice, the only guaranteed fool-proof method of avoiding pregnancy and STD's is abstinence.

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 Mentor Force is an organization of initiators.
We help young people who are at risk of falling into poverty and violence.  Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us:
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The Common Character Core

     Mentor Force is an organization that helps to raise grades and reduce behavioral problems. We use Power Moment Mentoring to reach students in their current emotional moment. We use the power of peer mentoring to help students help themselves as they help their friends.

     Emotional struggles are common to all people. The core of our character education program helps students accept their struggles as one of the keys to peace in their lives. That's the Mentor Force Common Character Core.

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Imitatable

Are your actions imitatable?
Do you want someone to imitate you?

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WIP

At Mentor Force, we urge all of our students to enroll in a personal welfare initiative called WIP.

Weekly
Improvement
Program

Take the initiative every week to make an improvement in the most important relationships in your life. Ask yourself how I can improve my:

• Friendships 
• Job or income
• Grades
• Financial status or knowledge
• Physical body
• Emotional health
• Peace in your family
• Chances for parole

You are in charge of taking the initiative to make improvements in your life. Start doing it on a weekly basis. You will be astounded at the results!

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 Mentor Force is an organization of initiators. We help young people who are at risk of falling into poverty and violence.  Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com.

Mentors are Potentiators

Imagine the potential in one kernel of corn or the potential in one child.

          All children possess unlimited potential. A Mentor needs to focus on the unlimited possibility of their Mentoree. A child in the womb may one day become the President of the United States. No one has the right to limit the potential of another human being.

          The difference in those children who graduate from high school and go on to college or successful careers is initiative. The job of a Mentor is to help their Mentoree understand that initiative unlocks the growth of potential. When you help somebody reach their potential; you become their potentiator.

          An educator is not someone who provides an education. An educator is someone who guides a student into a learning process. It is the student with initiative that gains an education. As a potentiator, you cannot provide potential. You are the guide whose most important task may be the teaching of initiative.

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Mentor Force is an organization of Potentiators. Our goal is to ensure that every student has the benefit of being guided by a Mentor. If we can help you reach your potential as a Mentoring organization please contact us: 716-830-8240 ywapbuffalo@yahoo.com.

What if Your Funeral Was This Thursday?

               Yesterday in Buffalo School #6 we asked the students in the After School Program this question:

"What if you died this week and they held your funeral on Thursday, what would people say about you? Better yet, what would you want them to say about you?"

          We told the young people about the "Butterfly Effect" that says that everything you do matters. One flap of a butterfly's wings can cause a hurricane on the other side of the world by moving one molecule of air at a time. We read a story about one man whose actions in one day changed the course of history in America forever. For every action there is a reaction. Are you taking actions that will be remembered as positive life giving actions?

 Good's & Bad's

          At funerals, it's customary to talk about the deceased in a congenial manner - only remembering their good parts. If someone were to be honest, they would have to talk about our bad's as well as our good's. Each of us has both good's and bad's. If your funeral was this Thursday or anytime soon, would their be more good's than bad's for folks to talk about? I asked the students to "do something that matters." On a sheet of paper, on your own time, write down what you would like people to say about you at your funeral. What you write is only for you and I will not ask to see it. This is for you personally to take a good hard look at yourself. This is what your paper should look like:

Family

 

Friends

Neighbors

Classmates

Teachers (or Janitors & Secretaries)

After each heading, write what you hope they would say about you at your funeral. There was one student who asked a great question: 

"What if we are not doing the things that we would want them to talk about?"

That's the point of this exercise; It's an opportunity for you to do a personal and brutally honest self evaluation. Find out what you need to change about your life and change it. We wrapped the class up with a short discussion on forming new habits.

 Don't wait until they are planning your funeral, make some changes today.

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Mentor Force is an extension of youth With A Purpose Inc. We mentor young people and we teach mentors. Please contact us if we can help you create more "good's" in the world.

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